Save-the-Date 101: Your Questions Answered


Some brides and grooms choose to send along a save the date, though many these days are deciding to also forego this formality. This is causing a bit of a grey area for those brides and grooms that may want to send a save-the-date. Do you send one’ Do we send one to everyone?

Do you Have to Send One?

No, you do not have to send one. But there are some instances where sending a save-the-date is appropriate and perhaps even expected. If you are having a destination wedding that will take people away and out of their homes for over 3 days, then you should certainly send a save-the-date. It’s also a good idea to send a save-the-date along if you are getting married on a day that is busy on the weekend (such as a long weekend in the middle of summer, or during the Christmas season).

When should I Send a Save-the-Date?

A good idea is to start getting the word out about your wedding date 6 months prior to the date. This is also a good time to prepare and send out those save-the-date cards in the mail. For destination weddings, this means that people will be given ample time to plan ahead, book time off work, and budget appropriately so that they can attend.

NOTE: Don’t jump the gun and send the save-the-date too early, either. A lot of guests will simply toss the card aside and forget about it if you send it too early.

Do we Add the ‘+1’ to the Save-the-Date?

It’s always a good idea to know just who exactly is coming to your wedding, especially for budgeting’s sake. You may be surprised just who will and who won’t attend your wedding, especially if you are having it outside of your hometown.

That being said, if you don’t want your 3rd cousin’s boyfriend who she has been dating for 2 weeks to attend the wedding, then do not include his name on the save-the-date. This will be a subtle hint to everyone about who exactly is invited, and who is NOT invited. You may need to make this reminder a bit more clear when it comes to sending out the invitations.

Who Gets a Save-The-Date?

Anyone who you want to come to your wedding! Even though you may have already asked your bridesmaids and maid of honor and the best man all picked out, it’s still customary to send along a save-the-date card.

TIP: Even if a guest receives your save-the-date card and tells you that they will not be able to attend, it is still a good idea to send them along an invitation.

What if we Change the Date?

If you happen to change any of the details of your big day, including the date and the location, you will need to start making some fast phone calls to all of the people you have invited along to your wedding. Make sure that you tell all of your friends and family you contact to help spread the word too, just in case you may have any problems getting in touch with people.

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